All people should feel safe in their own homes. We are proud to call Brown University home. However, there are necessary improvements that must be made in order to ensure the safety of Brown’s student. As it stands, Brown’s policy for sexual misconduct does not prioritize the safety of the victim; despite being found responsible for crimes such as rape and sexual assault, perpetrators are rarely expelled, and are most frequently suspended for short periods of time (e.g., one semester), if at all.On August 2, 2013, Brown University student Lena Sclove was strangled and raped by a classmate. The perpetrator was found responsible on four different counts of violation of the Student Code of conduct. Despite this ruling, he was only made to leave campus for a total of one semester and two weeks. He will be returning to campus in the fall of 2014, while Lena is still a student at Brown. Lena remains away on Medical Leave due to serious physical injury and mental and emotional trauma, and does not know if she will be able to return to Brown for fear of her safety while her attacker is on campus.So long as perpetrator of sexual violence remain on this campus, their victims can never feel truly safe — never feel truly at home. Join us in demanding Brown to take a stand against sexual violence. We ask that Brown requires that anyone found responsible for sexual misconduct be suspended until the person they have assaulted graduates, or until two years have passed (whichever is longer). Schools have the responsibility, under Title IX, to eliminate a hostile environment and provide for the needs of the complainant. This cannot happen while a perpetrator is on campus.
hi, friends, please take the time to sign & share this petition. at brown, you can be expelled for cheating on an exam. you can get expelled for failing classes. but you won’t get expelled if you violently rape someone. please sign this petition to let brown know that this is unacceptable bullshit.
Gizmo-Girls Just Want To Have Fun(Cover)
part of what made the end a little easier was realizing how little overlap there was in our interests (though the biggest thing was recognizing that he did not treat me well or make life better), so no, I doubt I’ll stumble across him at a jazz/soul festival, even if it is in his old city. or current city. I haven’t spoken to him in so long I have no idea where he lives.
that life of sneaking on flights to NC seems like ages ago because it was. I shake my head when I think of it now. could’ve had a V8. could’ve been in a relationship that didn’t have to be secret so often, b/c friends “wouldn’t understand” why I was back with him again…and again. could’ve been with someone I could love in confidence.
I am hoping his black ass has moved now, maybe to Atlanta like he hoped. maybe I just don’t want to see him grown up now in a goddamn blazer or something at the Foreign Exchange show with his wife, or whoever. except, I don’t particularly care what he’s doing or who he’s with these days. I have just taken solace all these years that being a serial long-distance dater means never running into exes. let’s keep that streak going.
Donald Winnicott (via themajorreview)
"In a dream
You saw a way to survive
And you were full of joy.”
A lot of the people I follow on Twitter have been tweeting about finding ways to “walk in your purpose.” They are people who self-published or started non-profits or are otherwise creating avenues for themselves and I feel accusations in their advice. “Why don’t you have a mentor? Why aren’t you living your dream?” It pushes me toward justifications for why I am where I am instead of inspiring me to search for a mentor or find ways of doing what I care about. I’ve been having a really strong reaction to it lately, which could be fear. I don’t know what that world is about, mentors and titles and creating something substantial according to your own vision (even if that thing is just your own life).
I’ve described my life as developing like a weed and I am ashamed of tending it in such a lackadaisical way. I’ve put a lot of effort into directing and nourishing my spirit, yes, but outer life…at some point I must’ve decided that it just wasn’t something that could ever reflect what’s really meaningful to me and so I didn’t try. Pessoa advocated having a double-self and that has been the case for me, having this outer life that is passable but not impressive and an inner life that is thoughtfully seeded and culled and curated. In life in general, I haven’t been moved to show signs of what goes on inside of me. I share with a small network of people and that has sustained me. It has been hard to face the very real possibility that I can’t have the kind of meaningful life I really want unless I put much more effort into the outer life I’ve largely abandoned. It is not enough to have bright and fragrant life happening in the basement somewhere, it has to show even up on the surface. I thought the surface was a shallow place and certainly, it can be, but not always. It is substantive if you are. And its value isn’t dependent on what every single person on the outside perceives but there will definitely be an influential few so why not let them see something that matters to you? Something reflective of who you are? It is such a struggle for me because that is not how I have functioned in life thus far but I will have to grow beyond those things I usually do. Heaven help.
got my hair cut! it’s so soft now. I’m here for it.